Tuesday, July 20, 2010

The Emergence of "Mrs Big" - more women as breadwinner

Not sure I like the title (when are men ever called "Mr Big" if they are the major breadwinner?) however the stats are interesting. Apparently, one-third of women are now taking on the breadwinner role as their earnings outstrip those of their partners, new research has found.

According to the Women And Work Survey 2010 (UK study), 30% of 2000 females questioned were either out-earning their partners or earning as much, with one in 10 claiming to have a house husband.

Other note-worthy stats:
- only 11% of those questioned expressing the desire to stop work completely when they started a family.

- almost half of all full-time mothers admitted they hated not earning their own money, while 32% missed work itself.

- though women working full-time earn, on average, 17% less per hour than men working full-time.

- the Grazia research found that 69% of mothers preferred to keep their hand in at work, with 60% of mothers of children under three stating they preferred to work, albeit preferably part-time (40%).

- Women with full-time jobs said their employment made them feel worthwhile (50%) and confident (51%).

- Four out of 10 women thought that in future the career of whoever was the highest earner would take precedence, regardless of sex (42%), and a further 39% felt mothers and fathers would share the work and childcare load equally.

- only one in 10 high-earning women thought the situation threatened her relationship.

More details at: http://tinyurl.com/2c3kzah

Friday, April 16, 2010

Women’s Support :Becoming Our Own Role Models

Love this piece from the www.DailyOm.com today. Enjoy!

"There was a time where women stood together in a bond of sisterhood, women supporting women.


As women embrace the fullness of who they are as individuals, they may find themselves supporting other women, helping others to reach the level of inner comfort and outer freedom that they themselves have found. Among those who are less sure of themselves and their place in the world, it may be more common to criticize other women than to seek their help. But there are things that a woman can only learn from another woman, as there are things about being a man that can only be learned from other men. We all recognize that we have much to learn from each other regardless of gender, but sometimes we could use a supportive role model that gives us a more precise example of what and who we can become.

There was a time where women stood together in a bond of sisterhood, women supporting women. It is only natural that the pendulum swings out of balance for a while so that we may have the experience of what we do not want. It is up to women to bring the pendulum back into balance and bring back the sacred sisterhood we yearn for at our core.

If we envision a world where women support each other and help each other find their place in an ever-changing world, then we can become the change we want to see. Jealousy, envy, criticism, and judgment are refuges for the insecure. As we help others to become self-assured, we create a world in which all people help each other, regardless of gender. Only women can make the change in how women are seen and understood, not just by other women but by the world at large. The way we speak about each other to other women and to the men in our lives informs everyone to treat us with the respect that all women, and all people, deserve. "

Let's bring it on back mums! Let's not gossip about another woman - whether we know them or not...

Saturday, March 6, 2010

Happy International Women's Day to all working mums!

We wish all working mums a wonderful day on Monday and we hope you are celebrating with some great women somewhere!

Here's some interesting facts on IWD from the website: www.internationalwomensday.com

'International Women's Day (8 March) is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. In some places like China, Russia, Vietnam and Bulgaria, IWD is a national holiday. The first IWD was run in 1911. Next year is IWD Global Centenary 1911-2011.'

Let's make the centenary next year a big one for celebrating working mums!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Is Sleep better than Sex?

Is Sleep better than Sex? For a lot of working mothers it seems so – particularly those mums with kids under five who are still waking during the night. A recent article mentioned some tips for getting more sleep so that we can feel better and be more productive during the day:

1. Set a bedtime for yourself and keep it! (you may just lose weight if you do this as you won’t be so tired and have all those food cravings!)
2. Invest in some proper pyjamas (I suggest wearing silk – it makes you feel good and a lot more feminine than just ‘mummy’ type clothes – and it’s proper ‘sleeping’ attire)
3. Switch off your mobile while it charges overnight.
4. Don’t check the time or switch on the lights if you do wake up during the night.
5. Counting backwards from 300 in sets of three helps you drift off.
6. Cut out some of the other stuff, like an hour watching TV to ‘wind down’ at the end of the day – sleep is more essential!
7. Stop believing that working 24/7 shows you are serious – you can be professional and get some sleep.

SO go some some more sleep! Read the whole article at http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/article7021747.ece

Monday, January 18, 2010

Working Mums Tip #6 In Essence – Being Grateful for What You DO Have In Your Life

If you do nothing else from reading these tips – then do this last one!

This will make a HUGE difference to your life and to how you feel about everything that happens. Don’t take our word for it, just try it!

If you are reading this tip now, this means you already have an amazing life compared to most people in the world. You have enough food, shelter, clothing , your family and children have access to leading edge medical treatment and you have ways of earning income to help yourself and those you love. This is more than 95% of what the world’s population have got.

And yet we want more – and things to be better for us. And that’s OK. That’s how the world works and how our knowledge and skill expands – to provide for us and others coming behind us. So it is good to ASK for what we want – to wish for things that we would love to have in our life – more money, more freedom, better health, easier relationships – if you can think of wanting it, then it’s OK for you to have it!

What we have learnt DOESN’T work – is asking for these things from a place of complaining, or scarcity, or not having them. If we constantly think about what we don’t have - from a place of complaining that we don’t have them -then we don’t get them. Or if we focus on how other people have things that we want – new house, new car, different job, luxurious holidays etc – then we just make ourselves feel bad that we don’t have them.

But if we are grateful for what we DO have in our life – and give that thanks every day – and ASK for what it is that we would like more of – then we have found that that’s what works. Coming from a place of gratitude to ask for more – rather than a place of lack to ask for more.

So here’s our last tip – every day, when you wake up - and before you go to sleep - and any other time of the day that you can remember:

Give thanks for the love in your life – for your family and for being able to have or look after children – many people can’t.

Give thanks for your career/job/employer/business for the opportunity to earn income and support your family and your aspirations in life.

Give thanks for the food in front of you – the roof over your head – the clothes on your body – the health you enjoy – for this glorious, abundant, safe country that we live in.

Give thanks for ALL you have in your life – however small or insignificant you think it is. Many people in the world would LOVE to have what you have.

And then focus on what else you would LOVE in your life – what would you really LOVE? And then believe it will come to you….

Wishing you many good things – and hoping to see you at an event soon…

Friday, May 8, 2009

How to make a Mother's Day

Just read a brilliant article about how much mothers are criticised and judged by others - often by people in public that they don't even know. With Mother's Day looming and all the spin about really caring for mothers and 'it's the most important job in the world' then why is there so much judgment and criticism of mothers? Damned if they go to work and leave their kids, passed over socially if they don't work as not being anyone of consequence - what's a poor woman to do? not have children? Then she's damned for being too selfish. We can't seem to win any which way.

If only we could give mothers the praise that they so rightly deserve - the courage to bring another human being into the world and nurture them in the best possible way they know how. To be a 'good-enough' mother. Let's all give at least one mother some positive comments this Mother's Day about what she's doing that IS working. That will make her Mother's Day!

Read the article http://tinyurl.com/px3xw4

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Right to ask for flexible working rights in the UK

UK parents of children under 16 now have the right to ask for flexible working hours from their employer . Previously only legislated for parents with children under 6, this is an outstanding recognition that children need support from parents all through their school years as well.

Fantastic achievment UK - what's Australia doing about this? C'mon -let's get with the times!

...'the business benefits of flexible working, with three in five (59 per cent) saying it would improve staff morale, two in five (40 per cent) working mums believing flexible working would reduce absenteeism, and more than a quarter saying it would improve staff retention and attract talented staff. Recognised business benefits of flexible working also include increased productivity and recruitment savings.' So why are so many Australian employers not doing this?

http://www.egovmonitor.com/node/24480

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Paid Maternity Leave - Come on Australia Let's Do It!

Australia is one of only 2 OECD countries that still doesn't have paid parental leave (USA is the other one - surprise surprise!).

Kevin Rudd promised that paid leave would be on the agenda when he won office but has claimed the Global Financial Crisis (GFC) has now put this on the backburner - but why? Surely this would help struggling parents just as much as any stimulation package???

This is also the view of Greens Senator Sarah Hanson-Young (mother of a 2 year old) who argues in this SMH article for Paid Parental Leave to be a definite in this May's Budget.

Let's support the debate to make sure it is!

http://tinyurl.com/cgdn6w

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Southern Cross University Supports Working Women

Thank goodness some organisations are still seeing women as a valuable asset.

FIVE universities were dropped from the 2009 employer of choice for women list last week (albeit due to changes over pay gender equity criteria). Southern Cross University (SCU) was named as a new 2009 Employer of Choice for Women yesterday, as a result of ensuring a fair workplace for working women.

The Development Program for Women offered at Southern Cross University includes a mentoring program, as well as a networking forum hosted by the Equity Services and Human Resource Services.

Mentoring and networking forums - just what we've been offering for years. So listen up all you other organisations that don't currently offer this.

That's what we want. That's what we need.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

New Years Thoughts on Working Mothers

How do we negotiate the nearly impossible task of nurturing partner, children, career and self in the isolation and lack of community today? The social support we desperately need to ground ourselves for the relentless tasks of motherhood is absent. How can we recreate that?

That was part of our purpose for designing The Corporate Mothers' Forum - so working mums could just talk to each other and download. Becoming a mother is one of the biggest physical and psychological transitions that a woman can go through - along with menarche (the first period) and menopause (the last period).

But of these three female transition stages - childbirth involves a change so dramatic that women often feel their lives are on the line. All vestiges of control must be surrendered and swept aside for total transformation of the woman into the mother. It often astonishes women how vulnerable we can feel after childbirth as our whole endocrine system has been turned upside down. Was this your experience?

To register for more tips, see www.workingmotherssecrets.com

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Westpac bails out their ABC Childcare Centres

Congratulations Westpac for walking your talk about supporting working mothers! They have taken over the operation of many of their childcare centres under threat from the recent ABC Learning Centre debacle. So the continued care of their Westpac employees' children has been assured.

Let's hope that happens for many more of the Centres and for the worried parents hoping to find places for their children.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Forcing Mothers to Work?

A new survey reports that two-thirds of mothers are being 'forced' to work to make ends meet.

1000 adults (were they all mothers?) were surveyed for the poll by The Daily Telegraph newspaper and reportedly only 7% of mothers go back to work to maintain their career.

It is also reported that a similar percentage of Mums go back 'because they want a break from the family'.

The rest (ie around 66%) work because of financial reasons. Well isn't this why most men work anyway? And what of the single mother scenario - of course they have to work.

What do you think of this survey?

http://news.smh.com.au/national/many-working-mums-would-rather-be-home-20080826-429g.html

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Cost of being a stay-at-home mum: $1 million

Well it seems like we're damned if we do work - or damned more if we don't.

This review of Ann Crittendon's book 'The Price of Motherhood: Why the Most Important Job in the World is Still the Least Valued' documents in painstaking and depressing detail all the ways in wihich government policy, the tax code and corporate culture penalise mothers who work and the parents who stay at home.

When women decide to leave the workforce, they not only forfeit their income, but also super savings, pensions and other benefits. The financial tradeoffs she lists are a stunning indictment of a mother's financial vulnerability. An economics writer herself, Crittendon recommends several smart policy changes for government that would reduce the financial penalty of having kids, especially for SAHMs (Stay at Home Mums). But the goverment acting on our behalf may take decades - so here's some practical ways to bolster your financial and emotional security now -

  1. Reconsider the prenup ( or if in Australia, consider doing one so that your agreement takes into account the career time given away and lost earnings if you're a SATM)
  2. Figure out, if you can personally afford this (including sometimes the hit in self-esteem and sense of identity but the 'cost of work' ie travel, wardrobe, eating out etc can be reduced)
  3. Be honest about what you need if you're going to be the SAHM - time at the gym, extra help, etc.
  4. Keep planning for your retirement - maybe the working partner invests for the SAHM's future.
  5. Don't assume you're leaving the workforce - consider sequencing or home-based work
  6. Find out if your company is more family-friendly than you think - ASK for what you need!

Maybe our Corporate Mother's Forum could help you and other Working Mums at your organisation? See http://www.howdoyoudoit.com.au/

Full article at http://tinyurl.com/3dafy9 or buy the book at http://tinyurl.com/3k2dc2

Friday, May 30, 2008

Professional Women Working Part-Time Don't Achieve Balance They Want

A recent report from Beaton Consulting Group has found that professional women do NOT achieve the balance in work/family life they are looking for when they elect to work part-time, as well as taking a financial hit at the same time.

The 2008 Executive Summary to the Report 'Work Life Balance in Australia in the New Millenium: Rhetoric vs Reality' reports the findings of a study of over 11,000 knowledge workers across Australia. Respondents were both male and female, with dependants and without. Childcare and eldercare issues are examined.

Some other interesting findings were:
  • 25% respondents worked more than 50 hrs/week + 6 hrs/week unpaid overtime
  • 23% think of leaving their current organisation at least once a week or more
  • 42% report high levels of work overload
  • respondents are 3.6x more likely to prioritise work over family

The report calls for governments to pay attention to the work/life issues to address the falling birth rate and to change the tradition of focus on hours at work as a measure of productivity, contribution, loyalty and engagement.

Organisations are encouraged to increase their

  • perceived flexibility
  • number of genuinely supportive managers of flexibile work practices
  • employees' sense of control over their work situations

and to decrease their employees' workloads. It is proposed that professional women do face a glass ceiling with respect to career opportunities and advanacement. Women with child or eldercare responsibilities, in particular, appear to be disadvantaged.

It's great to see that such a large scale study being undertaken - let's hope governments and organisations take note so that the next generation of working mothers don't have to struggle as much!!

Full report at : http://www.beaton.com.au/pdfs/BC_WorkLifeBal_summary.pdf

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Next Australian Governor-General to be Working Mum and Grandmother

The new Australian Prime Minister Kevin Rudd has struck another victory for working mothers everywhere!

He's appointed Quentin Bryce, mother of 5 and grandmother of 5 as our next Australian Governor-General. Quentin has been a tireless advocate for working mothers, having been a lawyer, Sex Discrimination Commissioner and more recently, Governor-General of Queensland.

Quentin Bryce has always maintained that women need to have their economic independence to enable them to have choices. And she's proud to call herself a feminist!

This appointment surely can only help to encourage more women into high profile roles.

Go Quentin - go GG! Photo and full article courtesy of The Age http://tinyurl.com/5jkows

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

EOWA's New Criteria for Working Mums

THE Australian Commonwealth Equal Opportunity for Women in the Workplace Agency (EOWA) has new criteria for its Employer of Choice for Women award. This includes a pay equity gap of less than 17 per cent, a minimum of six weeks paid maternity leave, and at least 27 per cent of the managers being women.

We're getting closer gals - still not equal pay, but closing the gap!

EOWA has for the fifth year running, given the University of Western Sydney its Employer of Choice for Women award. UWS was one of only 99 organisations that met the agency's new criteria.

Go you Universities - no wonder so many working mothers remain in Academia when it's such a supportive environment for women, families and work/life balance!

See full article at
http://penrith.yourguide.com.au/news/local/general/women-at-uws/1213706.html

Friday, March 28, 2008

A Day in the Life of a Mother ...Click here for YouTube link

You have to watch this - it's hilarious - and so true! This is one woman's take on some of the typical interactions she has with her children in a typical day. Somehow we think you'll recognise some of the sayings - we certainly did!

All sung to the William Tell Overture in 2.5 mins. She's now called the 'William Tell Mom' due to her YouTube success. Quite an achievement - she must be a working mum! Enjoy..... the lyrics are there too so you can read along...

Thursday, March 27, 2008

Major Australian Retailer offers Six weeks Paid Maternity Leave

Australian retail giant, Myer, today announced they were offering six weeks paid maternity leave for fulltime and part-time staff who had been with them for 18 months or longer.

Hooray! Finally a major employer of women has seen the value of offering this benefit to their highly valuable working mothers.

Myer spokesman Greg Travers, says "[It] is an additional benefit that we also think will enhance the return rates of women to employment," he said. "We have a growth portfolio going forward into the future that's going to mean we'll need more people."

This kind of benefit makes it easier to convince working mothers to return and encourages existing staff to stay.

The Federal Minister for the Status of Women, Tanya Plibersek, has supported the Myer initiative. "It's got a very high proportion of female staff and I hope that businesses that haven't already got paid parental leave will think about following suit."

Well done Myer - and we both hope that many more businesses do the same!

Full article see http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2008/03/27/2200286.htm?section=australia

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Millionaire Marketing Working Mother says 'Ask for What you Need'

Virginia and I are very excited as we've just attended the 'World Internet Summit' conference in Sydney last weekend. We wanted to meet our internet coach and mentor from California, Tracy Repchuk, who was one of the keynote speakers there.

Tracy's been helping us to get our working mums business up online - and she's the perfect person to do it ! She's an amazing working mum herself (or 'Mom' as they say in USA)! Tracy has 3 kids - Kennedy 12, Celeste 11 and Caleb 10 - all born in the same month 1 year apart! So she REALLY knows what she's talking about....

We were lucky to grab an interview with her while she was here and the full video of her interview will be available as a free bonus when our new e-book 'Working Mothers' Secrets' is released in the next few weeks.

But here's some gold nuggets of advice from Tracy who has really earned the stripes of successful working motherhood:

'Don't victimise yourself into thinking that the workplace is a certain way. There IS an employer that will give you what you want - or perhaps become self-employed- so be brave and go after what you know will support you and your family. If you're certain of it , then you will attract it. It always works - once you get clear what you want.'

Tracy brought her husband and three kids with her to Australia so now they've gone on a road trip to Queenland - living their dream lifestyle. So thanks Tracy for being such an inspiration to us and other working mums around the world - and stay tuned for our new ebook!

Sunday, March 9, 2008

Happy International Women's Day - and a great win for mothers

Hope you all had a fabulous International Women's Day today and spent time with some wonderful inspiring women! I had a beautiful dinner with three of my favourite working mum friends - who continually inspire me - Virginia, Shelley and Marlane. Thank you sisters for your never ending love and support - I couldn't do this WM gig without you all!

And exciting news just in from the Art Gallery of New South Wales - a working mother of two has just won the Archibald Prize this year ( Australia's prestigious art prize worth $50,000) with a self-portrait of herself and her children Kell and Arella. This is what the artist , Del Kathryn Barton says:

“This painting celebrates the love I have for my two children and how my relationship with them has radically informed and indeed transformed my understanding of who I am,” she says.

“The title of the work – you are what is most beautiful about me – alludes to that utterly profound ‘in-loveness’ that all mothers have for their children. Both my children have taken my world by storm and very little compares to the devotion I feel for them both. The intensity of this emotion is not something that I could have prepared myself for. The alchemy of life offered forth from my inhabitable woman's body is perhaps the greatest gift of my life.”

What a woman! More info see http://tinyurl.com/2nlvnj